Do you think that you often psychological pressure? If you are calm and confident person, then you'll want to answer you, virtually no face. And in vain! Interventions may be quite different, and often the "victim" does not even understand that it just pressed. But this has a huge impact on your life! If you do not want more than to fall into this trap, read our article and use the knowledge for psychological self-defense.
• Types of psychological pressure
Psychological pressure - it's influence on other people, working to change their attitudes, opinions, judgments and decisions. It may seem that resort to it only the strong and results-oriented people, but it is not. Confident person will act directly and openly, and not look for workarounds, delivering another inconvenience. There are many types of psychological pressure, with which you will surely come across in life:
1 Duress - this is a direct effect of the naked body of another person
Resort to it only when there is some force, otherwise no one will give in. Examples of such a force can be physical quality, power, money, information. People who are forced to something, knows about what is happening during - in contrast to manipulation. You can try to protect myself hinting "davitelyu" that he does aggressive - some people do not like to admit it. However, if the person does not care, then to resist this kind of pressure is very difficult.
2 humility
Another type of psychological pressure to trying aggressor morally "crush the victim." In this situation, you may have heard about yourself a lot of unpleasant things: you're stupid, horrible, clumsy, mediocre, unorganized, etc. ... Being in a state of psychological prostration, you lose control of the situation, and at this moment on you is very convenient to press: "At least you can do it?". The idea is that being in sound mind, you would never have agreed, but then getting into the act personal protection mechanisms and the desire to prove their own importance. By the way, this method works o nly at the expense of self-doubt.
3 Care aside
This kind of psychological pressure stands apart from all others, because its essence is to try to take you into submission. Simply put, when you try to press, and you want to make this clear, the person starts to slide on extraneous threads or even goes into "defensive": "Well, what are you, eh?". Or wondered why you keep saying nasty things about him. In this case, each time the monitor point of care and return to the starting point: "No, I will understand then, we are now about you." If you stand, there is a chance that the aggressor will fall behind you with his pressure.
4 Suggestion - a kind of psychological effects on humans, after which it begins to uncritically "swallow" the information, imposed from without
A person using this method, should be respected for their sacrifices, otherwise the focus will not work. The deadline for this suggestion is hypnosis, but it can also be used in the waking state. To do this, usually used games with voice intonation and other semi-conscious moments. Paradoxically, there are people who do not give in to suggestion, and you are lucky if you are among them.
5 Persuasion
The most rational form of psychological pressure. It appeals to reason and human logic. That is why it subject to only people with a normal level of intelligence and the development of thinking - the others just do not understand what they then broadcast. Speech, which includes beliefs, usually the most logical, consistent and evidence - as soon as the consciousness of the victim detects the slightest discrepancies, the entire structure collapses immediately.
• A few words about the manipulation
About manipulation, we decided to tell apart, as it is with this kind of psychological pressure faced more often. Its essence boils down to a desire to change the behavior, outlook and perception of another person with a hidden, violent or deceptive strategy.
As a rule, the interests of the manipulator are realized at the expense of the victim, because of what is considered to be unethical manipulation. The views of psychologists on it are very different. Some believe that the result of sometimes justify the means. For example, when the doctor persuades the patient to start taking the medicine. Or mother, wanting the child to put on his hat, asked him: "You are what you go hat - red or blue?" - Not giving a choice. Others rightly believe that the person needs to provide all the information, but respect his freedom of choice and decision, even if it seems wrong.
In any case, the manipulation direction (albeit indirectly) to implement the interests of the "victims" are extremely rare. Usually, it's still the desire for private gain at the expense of others. Manipulation is a hidden view of psychological pressure - the person does not understand the true motives of the manipulator, nor the fact of exposure. The gain in this case is an exceptionally one-sided.
Of course, that is not easy to manipulate people - this requires a certain level of knowledge of psychology, the ability to feel other people's weaknesses, cool and calculating. Man, solve it, and tough enough not to worry because that causes harm to the victim.
Manipulators are based on different grounds, by which they are able to control the human mind. Needs and desires since ancient times used to exert psychological pressure on human rights. Take for example the well-known Russian passion for "free" - the desire to get the maximum benefit at minimum cost, through which enriched a lot of scams.
Each of us in life is guided by certain ideals and values, which include the notions of good and evil, what is right and not, etc. ... So, relying on them, the other person is quite easy to manipulate us. For example, the supply of alms to a beggar - it seems to be random acts of kindness and compassion, though long since known that the majority of these donations go into the pocket behind this scam.
Intelligence and logic can also be manipulated. For example, using a complex and long circuit, with the computation of numerous figures and cause-and-effect relationships. This is often used by professionals of network marketing, agitating you to join their cause: "Put all three pennies, and get a huge profit, which is obtained from the following sources ...". As a rule, this scheme is put some logic errors, so that you can see the result, which is favorable manipulator.
It is very convenient to manipulate irrational ideas man. They are divorced from objective reality beliefs and convictions, which are formed during the life of a person and are very difficult to change outside. Full of them in the minds of each of us, for example:
I have to take responsibility for all by yourself;
If you are about something ask, then you have to help;
I must always sympathize with and help other people;
For any service you must give thanks;
Everything must love me;
Manipulator enough "push" on one of these "pet peeves", and the person becomes a virtually flawless creature. And the strength of these systems is enormous, and thanks to them from us, you can achieve almost any unpleasant and embarrassing actions.
Well, the most fertile ground for manipulation - our feelings and emotions. When someone causes you anxiety, is very easy to use it for their own selfish purposes. Women manipulate men, men - women, parents - children, and vice versa. For example: "You love me, and will not allow me to traveled by public transport." And so it can continue indefinitely, as feelings - an inexhaustible source of energy.
It is worth noting that we are being manipulated almost everywhere. Full of psychological pressure at work, in politics, advertising, relationships, and just in everyday life. As a rule, if you see that a person is prone to manipulation in one area of your life, it will do the same in others.
• Methods of psychological influence
Psychological pressure may be implemented in a variety of methods - there can be, as they say, it all depends on the imagination of the aggressor. However, the main methods of manipulation of consciousness should be known to every man to resist them. As you know, forewarned - is forearmed, and it is one hundred percent regards all that is due to psychological pressure. So, what is most often used by fans to influence the minds of fellow citizens?
Trance
One of the oldest methods of influence on the human psyche. He puts our mind in a special state in which loses the ability to analyze information and make informed decisions. Perception is focused on one thing, of course, favorable manipulator. In a trance, you can enter a variety of ways - most often used repetitive stimuli, such as monotone speech, rapidly changing images, swinging pendulum, etc. ... In such a state of consciousness is particularly vulnerable to pressure, so you can verbally inspire anything or provoke you to undesired operation.
The use of words triggers
These are words that carry important for the "victims" emotional connotation. They often resort sellers seeking to sell their goods: "Buy a TV ponadezhnee more elegant coat shorts pomodnee ...". They reflect any assessment or quality that the "victim" wants to have.
Adjustment
It is expressed in the fact that people copy these or other components of your behavior: intonation, rhythm, breathing, posture, manner of speaking, look, gait, etc. ... It would seem that there is nothing wrong, but after adjustment starts immediately psychological impact. You are already on the same wavelength with the man, and he was much easier "story" you in the right direction.
Link to authorities
When you need to convince someone of something, it is often sufficient to refer to any expert in the field, and all - the victory is in your pocket. Incidentally, a classic psychological pressure. Oddly enough, the authorities may also be wrong, but it remains behind the scenes.
Psychological "games"
No, no, it's not the most fun exercise - rather manipulation scheme by another person. They are there in abundance. For example, an exemplary child behaves periodically does something out of the ordinary. Maybe he just vrednichaet, but more often the case in the other: the child wants to be praised for good behavior that adults perceived as the norm. After receiving praise misconduct probability increases as the parents see the contrast. Another example: on the job is a slave and asks him to make a lot of cases for tomorrow. A slave eyes on the forehead climb after which the chief says, "Well, okay. Do this at least. " And the slave runs away happily fulfill the order, though initially would not have subscribed to it.
Exchange thanked
Admission pressure is that one first has you any small favor, which you may not even be asked, and then strongly suggests that it would be nice to thank him for it.
"Poor"
Each of us from childhood experiences with this technique when you are offered a choice: either you do what you have to do or you will find yourself bad. Resort to it all and sundry: men, colleagues, bosses, friends and acquaintances, sellers in shops. Paradoxically, it works!
Vision for the future
You paint a picture in color, what happens if you do what you want. Our soul is so arranged that tends to a state of joy and psychological comfort, and we are ready to do anything to achieve them. In this case, the possible inconvenience for us from such things simply do not count.
Frightening images
If the above methods do not work, the person can be demonstrated, as will be bad, if the action is not performed. For example, the boss says: "If you do not report, companies face fines." Fear is overpowering, and you agree.
• How to resist the psychological pressure
Oddly enough, but resist the psychological pressure is much easier than it provide. The first thing you need to realize that you manipulate. You can see in the behavior of the partner signs the above-described methods of exposure. Persistent attract your attention to aspects of one and ignoring others also should alert you - as generous promises that cause reasonable doubt. In your state at manipulation may appear inexplicable affection for your partner, sharp fluctuations of feeling, the feeling of lack of time, of guilt, of duty - all of these things should be a signal that you manipulate.
The following is to inform the person that he "put into clean water." You can call into question the appropriateness of the actions and decisions that he demands of you. Then offer its own version of the interaction, which in the first place will suit you.
Naturally, the manipulator will resist. In this case it is useful to ask questions aimed at clarifying the situation: what does he mean when he says about the problem, what the objective conditions and restrictions are to be, what should be done to improve the situation, etc. ... Ask why manipulator chose you and right now - all this allows you to keep track of what prefers to "press" the aggressor.
Well, the most useful - it's banal "including the brain." As already described above, the main task of the manipulator - intensify feelings, emotions, irrational installation, because they contribute to the belief in the words of the aggressor. However, once you get out of the state of compliance and a sober analysis of the situation, as all changes dramatically. Lost urgency in addressing the issue, and the guilt of a particular you no longer feel. So as soon as you feel that you manipulate - start to think hard. And always ask for time to think - that it helps you to go beyond the situation and look at it objectively.
In today's world it is very important to be able to deal with the psychological pressure. We almost gave up arms and use of physical force, respectively, the enemies were only such methods of influence. And in order to live a happy life, you should be able to recognize them and protect yourself and your loved ones from such a brutal psychological intervention.
