Natalia Grace - a gifted psychologist and business coach from St. Petersburg, in his book "The Laws of Grace" made a number of laws that will help to get a little wiser. Here are a few of them. Maybe they can help you today.
1. Law zero
You must reset the brain. If you are back home and barely hold on his feet, and made only fourteen of twenty-eight cases scheduled for today, if you sat down and sit blankly staring ahead into the void, do not blame yourself for inefficiency! The brain can not smoothly carry out your orders. It is also necessary to do. He must restore order in all those lumps that you ponakidali him. At this time, the absence of any information you need from the outside. Brain "cleared" at this time. This is reset. Even the soil ceases to be fertile when the seventh year she did not give a rest, and forced to give birth again. This makes it a barren slave. Long live the reset!
2. The Law of false kindness
We just think that we are helping, solving other people's problems. We aggravates them. When we forcibly drag treated alcoholic, only prolong his agony and spend their time. He zapёt again, and we will consider it ungrateful pig, instead ask yourself whether it is worth throwing pearls. Man must solve their problems CAM. It grows in proportion as it grows arsenal of problem solving.
3. The law of fairness details
As a person manifests itself in the details - so is he! He can be generous royally, but once a year, and petty nature manifests itself in small things every day, so stuff is much more revealing.
4. The Law of embryos
There are germs of phenomena and events. Although these germs and not alive, but have the ability to reproduce. One cup left entail a mountain of dirty dishes. One inscription on the freshly painted fence will soon be left alone - the entire fence will be used up. How to use the law of embryos? All adverse events, and events need to recognize in the bud. Germs of all evil must be destroyed. If some phenomenon of life you do not like - remove it fetus. It is much easier to melt a snowflake, you stop a snowball.
5. It is better to under-than over-
This applies to absolutely everything. For example, if a speech, then finish it before people get tired. Goethe said: "The Mystery of the boring is to say everything." Went out on a date - just a little bit earlier than it wants to make your partner. Leave the guests before they yearn for solitude. Remember: it is better under- than over- ...
6. The law of general teams
Two horses in harness able to budge the 15 tons. But each of them individually - only 3 tons. Harnessed in the affairs of not less than two - and to be effective. "A string of three times twisted, not soon will tear."
7. Law magic word
It turns out that the magic word - "NO", and not "please". Many problems can be avoided if people refuse to learn. Do not spend time in the empty conversation "out of politeness." Not to borrow money when you do not want to do that. This is much better than to suffer over whether to return or not. Give what you can give, and do not let the debt. Goethe said: "If you want to lose a friend - give him to borrow money."
I found an interesting phenomenon. When a person refuses arguments, it raises self-esteem, increased self-esteem. People are afraid to refuse. And you know why? They are afraid not to please! And will not please everyone. Learn to experience negative emotions of others quietly about your refusal. If you just say "NO", then argue waiver will already be easier. Refuses easily.
8. Law false ideal conditions
There will never be an ideal environment. Silly, of course, deny that favorable circumstances occasionally happen. More rarely someone wise enough to use them. Partly because the ability to hide under the guise of the problems that must be solved.
9. The Law of Supply
One person, let's call it Mikhailovich, wanted to change his bike to a new, more modern. Mikhalych an ad in the newspaper that sold the bike, because the entire sum for the purchase of new, he did not have.
The model was five hundred years old shaggy, therefore calls on the ad have been reported, but at the end of week one person is still called. Mikhalych met him, and he offered him a very modest price, about three hundred dollars, saying that this bike can only be spent on parts. Mikhalych became indignant and said that it would sell at least a thousand. Client with a sigh gone, and it was evident that he does not break, and do not really willing to pay more, with left Mihalychu your phone with the words: "If you still decide to give me a call."
Mikhalych did not think to change their views on the old horse and did not call. The client called back a few days later and again offered three hundred dollars, but Mikhalych refused. A week later, when Mikhalych late leaving the office, he could not remember where to put the motorcycle until finally he realized that it was stolen.
Offers made on purpose. The fate so often manifests care about us.
10. The law once an established
One well-established works fine!
11. The law of compensation
Does not happen all at once! Can you imagine? .. Wife: beauty, manicure, haircut, do not dry cakes at home, in bed with her husband - the wonders of ingenuity and passion; children swim in the attention; genius sings, entertains guests playing the piano; healthy - well, just blood and milk; natured character silk meets smile, brilliant poet, lucky business woman, the perfect friend ...
Does not happen all at once, so Napoleon was afraid of cats, Tchaikovsky ate paper and cried up to ten times a day, Suvorov often pretended to be a fool, Schiller quite seriously put on the table for feeding rotten apples muse, and Bach organist threw in a wig when he was out of tune.
If something a person has made significant progress, in another he is usually a shortage. But the person is valuable not so much the lack of defects, as the presence of merit.
12. The law of influence
Environment affects how people become. In medicine, there is a concept: the rate of reaction. It is obvious that someone is destined to be slimmer, someone - better. But even within the concept of completeness can be plump handsome, but you can - bloated and spread to ugliness. At the same genetics, mind you. This is called the norm of reaction. Even if a person does not tears stars from the sky, then it has a margin of this very reaction norm. In an environment it will be developed (even relatively), and the other - primitive. Setting affect many, if not all. We become those who are close to us, and much less likely to convert others to himself.
13. Law of the cross
Cross each is given in strict accordance with his back.
14. Law of the polar reaction to talent
Talented people always cause polar reactions: either delight or hatred. They can not be perceived indifference. They are impossible to ignore, ignore. They are impossible to forget. Remember them, love them, hate them, think about them, envy them. Therefore, if you are talented, you do not rely on universal approval. Enemies will have because not all the talent they have got.
15. The Law "Do not your people"
Not your people still on you go.
16. Law of the shared memory
Most people share a common memory for events and all there poods of salt. The shared memory based attachment and fair as quiet phase lasted love. Thus, entering into the memory connects people. Want good attachment - fall into the memory good.
17. Act to bind thoughts neighbor
A person who is close to us, makes us think about yourself, even if it is not interesting to us. This dangerously close to worthless people.
18. Law of the inevitability of loss
In all that man does, he makes mistakes. Therefore, losses are inevitable. Losses - is inevitable, gentlemen! Knowing this, you should not grieve too much. On many things, but not everything we can influence. There are general laws of the universe. We can not be perfect, and our actions - as well. Accept the inevitable losses with humility. Perhaps, it is necessary only here.
19. Law of halves
Any picture of the world, any business can be symbolically divided into halves, which complement each other. Halves can call start and end. Set the tone for the initial half is still possible, but if it materialized, the final half begins "dorisovyvat" as if by itself. That's the essence of control situation. You can specify the initial half to get the desired end result.
To consolidate this idea is an illustration. You're probably trying to figure out why some people cause others reactions of admiration and adoration? They behave as if he can not help but like it. If you want to make a speech, then their whole view shows: I'm ready for a round of applause, and people start cheering, dorisovyvaya mate. They look as if waiting for the reaction of adoration - and people are starting to look with interest at first, then fall in love. Ask the correct initial half, and success is guaranteed.
20. Law of the right things
If a person is doing the right thing, then doing it every day better and better.
source: http://fit4brain.com/5559
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